A bit of intro....
I always hate doing this bit! I am not even new to the world of blogging, but I am one of these people who get bored of them easily but I intend not too on this one!!
So who am I? Well I'm SKINT!! haha! Seriously though, my name is Natasha and I am a single mum. I am 28 but 29 next month. My daughter turns 5 at the end of this month and as I am skint I have not even bought her presents yet or even considered her birthday BBQ yet! Bad mum I know!
I am currently unemployed and I have been since I was forced to resign from my job when Jessica was a few months old. I was in an abusive relationship and unfortunately have not been able to find work since. No matter what courses I enroll on to better myself, a single mum with NO childcare options who has been the victim of domestic violence and abuse in every relationship she has ever been in just is not employable. I would happily pay for childcare but no one seems to understand that until I actually get a job and some wages into my bank I can NOT actually pay for child care! I have no one that will look after my daughter so I can work and it is not fair.
I agree with the government giving working families 30hours free child care but what about us single parents who are desperate to get back to work but cant get child care so we can actually get a job??? We would benefit from those 30 free hours too so we are actually available to employers!!! SUCKS big time!!
I have tried everything from selling AVON, Bodyshop at home and Partylite. These are ok provided you live in a very big area with plenty of people who are willing to spend and you have friends and family who are willing to support your business. I am one of the unlucky ones who unfortunately has neither!! I have been back to college and been on various courses. Nothing works. Employers just do not want someone who can only work during the school day until they can afford to pay for child care.
One thing that gets me a couple of quid here and there is my crafting. I have sold the odd bit of knitting and the odd handmade card but nothing to equate being a business. If it did I wouldn't be sat here documenting how hard it is to live as an unemployed single mum desperate to get back into work.
I am a sufferer of PTSD due to all the abuse I have suffered over the past 8 years and diagnosed as depressed, however I refuse to sign on to sick benefits because the 3 exes I have all think its OK to physically and mentally abuse a woman. I want to work to set the right example for my daughter.
So where do I go from here: Well tomorrow is my first day of signing onto Job Seekers. I have not had to rely on this since before my daughter was born. Before her starting full time school I was income support until I started my first year of my Early Years Teaching degree, However I had to quit my second year this January thanks to the latest controlling piece of shit in my life. You would seriously think that by now I would be able to spot an abusive bloke wouldn't you! With a little luck though I can restart my second year in September though. Fingers Crossed.
I am actually dreading being sat in that building with some patronizing woman telling me what I need to do and how to live my life and that I can get working tax credits with childcare element to pay for child care. What will NOT sink into her brain of course is the proof of hundreds of jobs I have been turned down for over the past 5 years, the fact that I have no one to babysit so I can go to work in the first place and the fact that I have to legally declare my status as being on the domestic violence register so employers don't wanna know!! What she will also fail to understand is that my daughter has a few health issues as well and sometimes I may be completely unavailable to work as we endure another hospital stay, or she has another fit meaning I all of a sudden have to leave any job as I am the only person who can go to her.
So anyway the purpose of this blog... well I am going to share my stories of life and how I get by supporting myself and my daughter whilst being so skint. I will share any helpful advice based on personal experience but most of all, hopefully reach out to all the skint people out there and help you feel better and make you realise that you are not alone, and although someone else may bitch at you for apparently being a dole dosser etc when all you want to do is go to work, I for one will not be! I will be here bitching with you about how hard our lives really are and how impossible it is for some people to actually get a job. Life on the state is getting so much harder and its even harder mentally when all you want is a job that no one will let you get and its tears you apart a little more each day.
I can safely say when my daughter was born, I never ever thought I would ever find myself getting into an even more desperate situation and everyday I wish even more that she has an even better life than what I do. All the while the government doesn't sort out making employers more flexible towards single parents wanting to work, I will constantly be letting my daughter down. A good mum provides for her kids,a good dad provides for his kids, but all the while a single parent, be it mum or dad has NO childcare or access to funds to pay for it they will NEVER be able to get a job no matter how bad they want one. IT SUCKS!!!
So who am I? Well I'm SKINT!! haha! Seriously though, my name is Natasha and I am a single mum. I am 28 but 29 next month. My daughter turns 5 at the end of this month and as I am skint I have not even bought her presents yet or even considered her birthday BBQ yet! Bad mum I know!
I am currently unemployed and I have been since I was forced to resign from my job when Jessica was a few months old. I was in an abusive relationship and unfortunately have not been able to find work since. No matter what courses I enroll on to better myself, a single mum with NO childcare options who has been the victim of domestic violence and abuse in every relationship she has ever been in just is not employable. I would happily pay for childcare but no one seems to understand that until I actually get a job and some wages into my bank I can NOT actually pay for child care! I have no one that will look after my daughter so I can work and it is not fair.
I agree with the government giving working families 30hours free child care but what about us single parents who are desperate to get back to work but cant get child care so we can actually get a job??? We would benefit from those 30 free hours too so we are actually available to employers!!! SUCKS big time!!
I have tried everything from selling AVON, Bodyshop at home and Partylite. These are ok provided you live in a very big area with plenty of people who are willing to spend and you have friends and family who are willing to support your business. I am one of the unlucky ones who unfortunately has neither!! I have been back to college and been on various courses. Nothing works. Employers just do not want someone who can only work during the school day until they can afford to pay for child care.
One thing that gets me a couple of quid here and there is my crafting. I have sold the odd bit of knitting and the odd handmade card but nothing to equate being a business. If it did I wouldn't be sat here documenting how hard it is to live as an unemployed single mum desperate to get back into work.
I am a sufferer of PTSD due to all the abuse I have suffered over the past 8 years and diagnosed as depressed, however I refuse to sign on to sick benefits because the 3 exes I have all think its OK to physically and mentally abuse a woman. I want to work to set the right example for my daughter.
So where do I go from here: Well tomorrow is my first day of signing onto Job Seekers. I have not had to rely on this since before my daughter was born. Before her starting full time school I was income support until I started my first year of my Early Years Teaching degree, However I had to quit my second year this January thanks to the latest controlling piece of shit in my life. You would seriously think that by now I would be able to spot an abusive bloke wouldn't you! With a little luck though I can restart my second year in September though. Fingers Crossed.
I am actually dreading being sat in that building with some patronizing woman telling me what I need to do and how to live my life and that I can get working tax credits with childcare element to pay for child care. What will NOT sink into her brain of course is the proof of hundreds of jobs I have been turned down for over the past 5 years, the fact that I have no one to babysit so I can go to work in the first place and the fact that I have to legally declare my status as being on the domestic violence register so employers don't wanna know!! What she will also fail to understand is that my daughter has a few health issues as well and sometimes I may be completely unavailable to work as we endure another hospital stay, or she has another fit meaning I all of a sudden have to leave any job as I am the only person who can go to her.
So anyway the purpose of this blog... well I am going to share my stories of life and how I get by supporting myself and my daughter whilst being so skint. I will share any helpful advice based on personal experience but most of all, hopefully reach out to all the skint people out there and help you feel better and make you realise that you are not alone, and although someone else may bitch at you for apparently being a dole dosser etc when all you want to do is go to work, I for one will not be! I will be here bitching with you about how hard our lives really are and how impossible it is for some people to actually get a job. Life on the state is getting so much harder and its even harder mentally when all you want is a job that no one will let you get and its tears you apart a little more each day.
I can safely say when my daughter was born, I never ever thought I would ever find myself getting into an even more desperate situation and everyday I wish even more that she has an even better life than what I do. All the while the government doesn't sort out making employers more flexible towards single parents wanting to work, I will constantly be letting my daughter down. A good mum provides for her kids,a good dad provides for his kids, but all the while a single parent, be it mum or dad has NO childcare or access to funds to pay for it they will NEVER be able to get a job no matter how bad they want one. IT SUCKS!!!
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